Archive for July, 2018

Graceful Aging

July 26, 2018

(Following is a summary of my talk to my ex-classmates of IISc, Bangalore, in the golden reunion, Swarna Sammilana, of the class of 1967, held during December 2017.)

Time and tide stops for none. We have gone through our times – good, bad and ugly. Now we have reached a stage where we have no obligations to anybody, no regret of anything and nothing much to prove. This is the stage where we need to age gracefully.

We need to take care of three important aspects of our life to be able to enjoy the time left with us as of today. They are: our health, our wealth and our dignity.

HEALTH

Health is primary requirement for our happiness. 50% of our health complaints originate due to our age. As our body ages all parts of our body struggles to keep up to their routine. We develop age related deficiencies such as Hernia, Cataract, Blood Pressure, Blood Sugar etc. Mind you, these are not deceases; these are just the results of aging. They become deceases when we neglect them.

Another 30% of our health problems are due to our life styles – like sedate life, bad food habits, lack of sleep etc. Another 10% of our complaints originate from emotional and psychosomatic reasons – arising from spouse and partners, from parents and children, from in-laws and out-law’s and from one’s own self assumed failures. Finally it leaves only 10% of all health problems, coming perhaps out of genetic reasons and/or unexplained stroke of bad luck – which you have to just accept and undergo medical attention and treatment.

For a graceful and happy aging, just attend to the normal aging problems like Hernia, Cataract etc well in time. BP can be easily controlled and managed by effective medicines and by changing your life style and food habits. Do not also worry about your cardio vascular deficiencies too much. It is normal at old age for the arteries to thicken and there are effective drugs to keep this process under safe levels. With a good routine of exercises and healthy food even blood sugar can be controlled with the limited use of drugs. These are definitely not life-threatening.

We have a dilemma when we respond to our body reactions – when we should see a doctor and when we should not? If you have a family doctor, he knows your body well and generally he gives proper advice. Otherwise, it is left to us to decide when to approach a doctor and which doctor. In these days of specialisation, general physicians have become a rare commodity. It is always best to have the first approach to the same doctor every time as he will know our health history better. Another dilemma we have – when to involve others close to us in our health issues? It is good to keep your spouse aware of all your health problems and also for you to be aware of your spouse’s. Involving others should be done selectively and judiciously.

WEALTH

We have had the best of our career in our chosen profession and have earned and saved enough wealth to take care of ourselves and our dependents. We should have proper financial planning which should include apart from our own day to day living expenses, our enjoyment and charity and also to cover contingencies of accident and medical expenses. Most of us who have retired from private services may not have pensions, pay revisions and medical coverage and hence should go in for Medical Insurance. These days such medical insurance policies have become very expensive especially for people above 70 years. If you have already supported your children to be educated and get settled in life, there is no need to leave any legacy specifically for them to inherit. In fact many of our children say openly, not to save anything for their future which they are confident, they will take care of. Still if you think you can spare some of your wealth for gifting to them, better do it now, so that you can feel happy to see them get the benefits of your legacy. After such gifts to them, you will also feel free of your responsibility and enjoy the rest of your wealth on your own. This is the time for involving your spouse in all your financial planning, if you have not doen already. Ladies, please, take interest in the finances of your family together, at least for the sake your husband’s peace of mind. One of us partners will have to leave first and the other one will have to manage alone for the rest of the time.  Better make a will to leave your children with good mutual affection. Involve a neutral third party if felt needed. You have earned enough and, ‘NOW’ is the time to enjoy your wealth, when you are physically able-enough. If not now, when?

DIGNITY

If you take good care of your Health and Wealth, your Dignity is generally assured. When you are together with your spouse, each can take care of other’s dignity. But when you become single at some point of time, you should take particular care of your dignity and self-respect. It is better to prepare for such an eventuality from now itself.

In whosoever care you are in (or planning to be in), you should always try to be of some help to them and get as less dependent on them as possible for your daily routines. You should always accept the changing times and should not impose your values on them.

GENERAL

There are several ways to enjoy your life without much financial, physical or mental strain. Try to update yourself with latest trends in fashion, food habits. Always have something to do: A hobby or something close to your heart. You may learn a game or a language. Keep your friendships alive. Read books. You may try and contact your old classmates or your long lost cousin. Attend marriages of children of your relatives, friends and neighbours. Enjoy your food. Have any food you like – but less often if it does not suit you. Do yoga, walking or some physical exercise for atleast 30 minutes a day. Get spiritual  (not necessarily relegious) and do meditate often.  Keep all your physical aids in good condition – like Hearing aids, Spectacles, Walking Sticks. Keep all your routine medicines easily accessible. Try and keep a diary and maintain to-do-lists even for your daily activities. Keep company with as many youngsters as possible.

Wishing you all senior citizens a very happy retired life with your spouse, care taker, relatives and friends. Let us all age gracefully, with good health, adequate wealth and enhanced dignity. Bye for now.

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The Shrine of Death – By Divya Kumar

July 24, 2018

 

A Book Review

 

Shrine of Death

The Shrine of Death 
Kumar, Divya; Paperback (331 pp)
Published by Bloomsbury India (2018)

 

Congratulations to Divya Kumar for her first ever novel, (really?). The narration is so smooth and natural it is hard to believe it is her first novel. The suspense and mystery is maintained till the very end. Set in locales of Chennai city, the mood of the comparatively slow paced city is brought out well in dialogues. The professional and private lifestyle of neo-liberated women of India is well reflected in the narration. It was nice to know some of the historical perspectives of sculptures of Chola period. The mystery of the concerned sculptures is maintained well throughout. However, as a reader, one feels, some more intrigues could have been built into this mystery to kindle further interest in the topic, and perhaps, to enhance the scope for a sequel. One could have also used a few pictures to show an ancient Temple and with a few bronze idols of Chola period. The novel gains good momentum, after about 80 pages, when the super cop Gerard Ratnaraj appears on the scene. The linking of disappearance of a fiery young historian, Sneha, to the idol theft could also have been brought out more dramatically. Occult powers of Jai and the circumstances which led to the revelation of such powers in him are quite interesting and could have even been developed as a strong second track. Flashback of Prabha could have been given more elaborately. Tamil accented language is used quite effectively to bring out the respective characters alive. Overall it was a good read and augurs well for Divya’s progress as a story teller. CONGRATS, Divya!

 

L V Nagarajan

23 July 2018

 

 

 

 

Innovative Ideas 10, 11, 12 and 13

July 21, 2018

In my first write-up under “Innovative Ideas”, I have proposed how Electric cars can be made affordable by making Batteries as replaceable like Gas cylinders for domestic use. Then in the 2nd write-up “Innovative Ideas 2, 3, 4 and 5”, I have proposed an elevator system with helical rails, a Number Lock with increased security, a Room Air Conditioner with a cool box and lastly, a Gym Charger. In the third write-up  “Innovative Ideas 6, 7, 8, and 9”, I have given my innovative ideas for improvement of passenger convenience in the vast Railways network of India. I hvae already sent them to our efficient Railway Minister Mr. Piyush Goel. You may see these ideas elsewhere in my Blogs. In the present write-up, the 4th in the series, I have given my ideas in several different areas benefitting the citizens in general.

Idea 10 – Elections Eligibility Test (EET)

We are all very much concerned about the quality of candidates contesting various elections and the quality of elected people to Parliament, Assemblies and Local Bodies. My suggestion to improve the situation will be to devise an Elections Eligibility Test (EET). Taking this test may be made voluntary initially. Association for Democratic Reforms (ADR) may devise such tests for different levels of governance. (more…)